Anti-Social or Independent
This seems a common statement. Do people really need someone else to do something they want to do? I've never had a problem going to the movies, a play, a meeting, dinner, bathroom, etc. alone. If someone else happens to be going too, I might go with them, otherwise I'm perfectly able of escorting myself.
However, with this thought in mind, am I anti-social because of this. Am I missing out on the quality that makes people closer? In studio, I never ask if anyone wants to go for coffee when I'm going for one. I just go. Same for lunch. And,well I don't smoke but I doubt I would ask for company if I did.
A while back Mekki was trying to set up a girl's shopping date for me and Towfi. I had mentioned that I needed a new pair of jeans and towfi wanted to do something. I'm up for doing something. But, let me reveal a secret. I hate shopping with other girls. Drives me nuts. I often feel like I should be letting them talk me into things I don't want or don't want to spend that much money for. Planned shopping is never a good idea either. I prefer to keep a mental list of things I need/will need soon and keep my eyes open when I happen to be shopping. Many bad memories of shopping for clothes with my mom when I was young. Lots of tears and yelling.
Part of it is I hate spending money and having to spend more money because I have to accommodate the other person. If I ask someone to go for coffee with me, they might want to go to Tim Hortons instead of the student cafe where I get a discount for bringing my own mug. Most of it is I just don't think of it. Other people don't factor in to my thoughts much. Not in an inconsiderate way (I hope) just simply don't think to include others in my plans/spontaneous urges.
But it is liberating. I like that I can go to dinner alone or the movies or the lady's room and not have to hope there is someone else who happens to want to do it at the same time.




